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What are some signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries with their clients?

14.06.2025 01:09

What are some signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries with their clients?

Obsessing about clients outside of work hours.

Frequent phoning or texting of clients to “check up on them and make sure they’re OK.”

Disclosing feelings, fantasies, and experiences to the client in ways not related to the work the client is engaged in.

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Failing to mention the client in supervision/consultation, out of fear the supervisor/consultant will advise return to ordinary healthy boundaries.

Sense of competition with persons who are important in the client’s life.

Eager anticipation (or anxious anticipation) of the next session in ways that distract.

Have you ever had sex with your female cousin? How did it start?

These items can happen fleetingly, briefly, in any therapy, but if they’re frequent, it’s definitely time for the therapist to get some good, solid supervision/consultation.

Serious disappointment when the client cancels a session.

Session-expressed curiosities about client details not relevant to the therapy.

Has your wife made you a cuckold?

Struggling with fantasies of deeper connections with clients, whether sexual or parental or other intense or intimate relationships beyond psychotherapy.

Off the top of my ancient head:

General Introduction to Boundaries from Panahi Counseling:

If the world was flat, would it be possible to see Mount Everest if it was on the other side of the Earth on a clear sunny day?

Routinely going over the time limit with certain patients, compromising the time for the next client.